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I See Rude People: One Woman's Battle to Beat Some Manners Into Impolite Society

I See Rude People One Woman s Battle to Beat Some Manners Into Impolite Society We all just suck it up every day You leave the house for a latte and somebody ll flip you the bird on your way and force their loud cellphone conversation on you once you re there It doesn t have to b

  • Title: I See Rude People: One Woman's Battle to Beat Some Manners Into Impolite Society
  • Author: Amy Alkon
  • ISBN: 9780071600217
  • Page: 400
  • Format: Paperback
  • We all just suck it up every day You leave the house for a latte and somebody ll flip you the bird on your way and force their loud cellphone conversation on you once you re there It doesn t have to be that way, says award winning syndicated columnist Amy Alkon Her hilarious stories of her in your face encounters with rude people and businesses will inspire you to stanWe all just suck it up every day You leave the house for a latte and somebody ll flip you the bird on your way and force their loud cellphone conversation on you once you re there It doesn t have to be that way, says award winning syndicated columnist Amy Alkon Her hilarious stories of her in your face encounters with rude people and businesses will inspire you to stand up to the boors in your own world Alkon not only gives the offenders a taste of their own medicine, she delves into anthropology, psychology, and behavioral science to figure out why we re rude and how we can stop all the intruding, shoving, and shouting She ensures that all these rude people get their comeuppance Lax parents Internet bullies Rude drivers Negligent businesses Telemarketing executives Car thieves Parking space hogs That loud jerk in the drugstore line In this funny, ferocious and freewheeling expose, Alkon gives you the tools you need to confront these abusers and restore common courtesy, respect and good manners to society chastened cellphone shouter at a time.

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    1. Amy Alkon

      Amy Alkon does applied behavioral science, translating scientific research into highly practical advice Her new book, published in January 2018 by St Martin s Press, is the science help book on how to transform to live with confidence UNF CKOLOGY A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence Alkon writes The Science Advice Goddess, an award winning, syndicated column that runs in newspapers across the United States and Canada She is also the author of Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F ck and I See Rude People She has been on Good Morning America, The Today Show, NPR, CNN, MTV, and does a weekly science podcast She has written for Psychology Today, Los Angeles Times, Los Angeles Times Magazine, the New York Daily News, among others, and has given a TED talk She is the President of the Applied Evolutionary Psychology Society She lives in Venice, California.Follow Amy on Twitter amyalkonFor speaking engagements macmillanspeakers amya

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    1. I wondered while I read this - how much rudeness is justified when your excuse is that you're trying to make other people not act in a way that you consider rude?It was also interesting how much trouble she had getting cooperation from others - maybe her own rudeness and confrontational attitude had something to do with that?


    2. Much of this book is a rant and the author patting herself on the back for attacking bad behavior for the good of humanity. Her willingness to relentlessly go after corporate nuisances in the form of telemarketing is amusing. The discussion of "underparented" children includes many valid points. I had difficulty understanding, though, how publicly shaming people for inconsiderate use of cell phones was anything other than responding to bad behavior with more bad behavior. Certainly there are obn [...]


    3. At one point, Alkon describes a letter she's written as "co-written by the angry eighth-grader in me." That's sort of the way the whole book felt. (Also having posted other people's home phone numbers on her blog so her readers could harass them, I'm not entirely convinced she should be throwing stones about another blogger's readers leaving nasty comments on her blog.)


    4. I am bothered by rude people as much as Alkon. Unfortunately for her, I also have no patience for people who whine and complain, which is what a good amount of this book is. But for the last chapter, everything is a complaint or a self-congratulatory memoir about how good she is at "getting" the bad guy.


    5. Whatever made me want to read this book? I can't remember. It's not very interesting. Some of the conflicts are interesting -- she's mad about public cell phone use, she's mad about police who won't investigate her stolen car even when she phones them to tell them where she just saw it, she's mad about Bank of America who give her money away to a fraudster with a fake driver's license and then won't investigate it, she's mad about getting phone calls from companies who want to waste her time -- [...]


    6. I didn't finish this book, I just couldn't take any more rude people or the ranting of the author. I was expecting short stories about her experiences and how she could put a comedic spin on coping in the moment. The chapters were too long and at some point we all need to practice "adulting": learn to not get all bent out of shape, convict with kindness, practice acceptance or in some rare instances kindly call the person out when there is true invasion of personal space.


    7. There is a long subtitle to this one, which pretty much says it all: “One woman’s battle to beat some manners into impolite society”. The author is a blogger and has an advice column. She is quite outspoken when it comes to people being rude. There are chapters on people talking loudly on their cell phones (one of my pet peeves!), parents who don’t parent, telemarketers, and more. I really enjoyed this. There was plenty of humour and I applaud her for standing up to some of these people! [...]


    8. For a non-fiction book, this was quite an enjoyable read. I read it on my Kindle, but according to , the paperback is 224 page. I went through it in under 24 hours (including the acknowledgements). So, it clearly held my attention and, while not a page-turner in the sense of a thrilling mystery or action-packed novel, I was obviously turning the pages… quickly.I figured this would happen, since Ms. Alkon’s writing voice is, in my opinion, hilarious. It’s not that she says things I don’t [...]


    9. Let me begin with a complaint: two of the ruder things (at least in my opinion) that people regularly do (smoking and bathing in Axe and other stinky scented products) are not included. I consider this a major shortcoming. With that out of the way, I liked this little book and its insights into how rude modern society is and how unaware people are of how their actions affect others. But most of my enjoyment of this book stems from Ms. Alkon's determination to end modern ill manners - she's this [...]


    10. Very interesting! The author does seem to 'cross the line' in her effort to combat rudeness on occasion, but she has a point! And since she is a journalist, she uses her encounters in her writing. I really liked the section on how American parents have abdicated their responsibility for discipline and that the kids are in charge in many families; she compares that with French parents and it's eye-opening. She takes on Bank of America, telemarketers (charges them for the time they steal from her [...]


    11. We don't have to take rudeness lying down - but be CAREFULAmy Alkon seems to have a talent to stay out of the way of scary rude people, but can call the rest of them to the mat. She says what I feel. She's inspiring to those who prefer to be doormats to rudeness.We were able to see her at a signing. It was a treat. She attracted a few hecklers, understandable. They were expecting Emily Post's granddaughter or something. This is NOT that kind of book. It's a woman's story of how SHE has tackled r [...]


    12. Amy Alkon is one of the cleverest writers out there. Her wit is a sharp instrument, and she uses it not just to get a laugh here and there, but also to make you think. She's fearless as she calls rude people on their behavior - from the guy talking on his cell phone and holding up the line (because he's talking, not paying) to telemarketers who unashamedly call all hours of the day. In addition, she also goes into detail about some of the reasons we're seeing an increase of rudeness and selfish [...]


    13. I could make a terrible joke about how RUDE it is for me to give this such an average rating and how I hope Alkon doesn't SEE it, but I'm not a soulless monster. Eh, the book was fun and light, despite Alkon's tendency to use the bare bones of science and psychology to support her claims. I thought her chapters were a bit disjointed and I disagreed with some of her main complaints (I don't really think that people should have to sequester themselves to talk on their cellphones so long as they're [...]


    14. I decided to read this book after seeing Amy Alkon, who writes the blog advicegoddess, on the Dr. Phil show. We all know from daily living how manners have deteriorated in recent decades, but Amy does not just sit back and take it. She speaks up. She takes pictures of cars that cut her off in traffic and posts them on her blog. She bills telemarketers for interrupting her dinner and even took one of them to court (and won!). She tracked down the thief who stole her pink Rambler and harassed him [...]


    15. I like the idea of the Dunbar principle, holding each other accountable, and calling people out on rude behavior. I also like the idea of teaching kids restaurant manners. I didn't get the whole Bank of America chapter. It was so long and didn't fit well with the rest of the book. Worth the read? Sure.


    16. I bought this, because I work at a high school, and, consequently, I think about manners a lot. Her specific examples about not just taking it when people are rude to you were very inspiring. I especially liked her invoicing for time wasted, I've done that, even if you don't get money it is great fun. Check out her blog: advicegoddess/goddessb



    17. This author is spot on. More people need to read this book! I was cheering her all the way thru it.I'm sick of rudeness, and it won't get any better!


    18. I really enjoyed this. She is a sassy lady with real tenacity, which I greatly admire. I loved her chapter on underparenting. As a non-mom, nothing irritates me more than being told I "don't understand why child X is being awful because I'm not a mom." No? Because being a teacher, or a human being with eyes and ears, is not enough to gauge that rudeness or impoliteness or a lack of consideration is occurring? Most often on the part of parents? It's hard to blame a kid, because they're a kid, but [...]


    19. i didn't read enough of this book to rate it. maybe it's very funny but i'm just not into it, i've maxed out on non-fiction. have a few art-related non-fiction to finish up and then i'm heading back into the beautiful great escape of fiction. this was a book club suggestion; i feel like i'm kind of bombing out lately on book club selections



    20. I love this book! The subtitle is "One woman's battle to beat some manners into impolite society." Yeah, I've felt that way quite a lot as I get older; I find myself wanting to go up to people and say "Didn't your mother teach you any better?" Seems like rude people are everywhere you turn around, making one wonder why we ever walk out our front doors in the first place. No one is safe from Alkon: lax parents, internet bullies, rude drivers, negligent businesses, telemarketers, car thieves, and [...]


    21. Sh*t! It would break my heart if I found out that author/columnist Amy Alkon didn't pick up her dog's poop. This book fills the Revengerella part of my heart that longs to rage at cell phone users, business cheats (Bank of America, you better watch out) and "underparenting." Instead of just sitting in silence and fuming, like I tend to do, Amy Alkon takes on the people who have lost all sense of social shame and are public boors, like the people who let their dog poop on the sidewalk in front of [...]


    22. I'm not sure Amy Alkon and I would agree on much if we were having a political conversation, but she's fierce and right on the mark in this funny and informative book. As the title implies, she attacks America's growing solipsism and declining courtesy. Helpfully, she does it via hilarious tales that teach you how to use your brain and some basic research skills to take back your personal space, wasted time and lost money. Cell phone oversharers? She's got that, recounting the incident and shari [...]


    23. Amy Alkon has balls. She takes pictures of rude drivers. She tracks down bigwigs of companies that telemarket, and calls them at home. She traces IP addresses of people who leave bullying comments on message boards. She single-handedly traced someone who stole her car, and called him until she got her car back and damages paid.Alkon is the person we shy people cheer for, the one who shushes the loud cell-phone user, or asks the jerky kid to stop kicking her seat on a plane. She is a champion of [...]


    24. Within 4 paragraphs of opening this book, I knew that I had found a kindred spirit. Though Amy Alkon uses much more colorful language than I do, I found myself nodding in agreement with her missions to get her car back as well as stop telemarketing. And if there was ever a time I would pull the "You go girl!" it would probably be on the sidelines of her fight to recivilize America.Some musings:1. I agree cell phone users -and frantic texters- are annoying. (though, if I am honest, I think part o [...]


    25. This is a well-researched, funny, and thought provoking book. Amy tells how she has battled rude people through the years including hunting down the man who stole her car and badgering him until he returned it and taking on Bank of America when she suffered from identity theft due to their errors. In many ways, Amy herself sounds rather rude, but, objectively, what she says and does, makes sense and from the photo on the cover on the book she does NOT look like a tranny. You will have to read th [...]


    26. Amy puts rude people in their place-by sometimes being rude herself! While that might affront some people, I found it wildly hilarious and entertaining. When I correct someone out in public (and I do more often then I realized), I try to be nice, but sometimes people need a good bitch-slapping. Amy is definitely the gal to do it.Wonderful personal stories, great advice (like freezing your credit reports), and plenty of websites for information and tools. I love that she invoices telemarketers. A [...]


    27. Hilarious! Whenever you get annoyed with idiots on their cell phones, telemarketers, unruly children, bad banks, pick up this book and follow the authors lead in seeking your revenge. She has lots of good ideas about how to try to teach the world some manners. It's absolutely delightful to read about how tenaciously she has followed through with some of these clever plans, eg charging the telemarketing company for her time, AND COLLECTING!This book is for all of us who get annoyed at bad behavio [...]


    28. It is difficult to say how much I liked, or disliked, this book. So much of how the author dealt with situations in her life frustrated me and I could only read a chapter or two at a time. Her way is not my way. I understand her argument that if we let rude people roll over our lives, then these rude people will continue to do so. The thing is, the way I see it anyway, is that if you call a stranger on their rudeness, they will probably stop being rude to you. But will they take out this 'tremen [...]


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